The news of Kate Spade’s suicide in 2018 made one thing crystal clear to author and podcaster Elayne Fluker: working women need strong support systems.
Fluker, like Spade, struggled with depression and anxiety. Fluker has managed it for years using a variety of tools and techniques, but she says none have been as effective as asking for support.
“Getting support for myself in whatever ways that looks like, without judging myself for needing it, and knowing without a doubt that I deserve it, has been a game changer for me,” Fluker wrote in Get Over “I Got It”.
Studies show that working women experience more stress and burnout than men at work. HBR research found that women are more likely to volunteer for non-promotable office tasks than men, adding to their workload with little personal payoff. And whether women have families or are single, they’re also responsible for a majority of household chores, making their home lives as stressful as their work lives.
Fluker believes if more women were taught how to build their own support systems, we could finally see the gap between males and females in the office close and quality of life for women improve.
“When it comes to our support systems at work and wanting to achieve our goals, many women don't realize just how much their inability to ask for support and to ask for that support in an empowered way could be just the thing that's holding them back.”
Here are Fluker’s 5 best tips from Get Over “I Got It” for making an empowered ask for support: